Thursday, October 8, 2009

FYI! .The Inspirer pt.3

ENFP Personal Growth

What does Success mean to an ENFP?

ENFPs are motivated in everything that they do by a desire to understand the world around them.  They are constantly searching about. Mentally and physically, for input that will help them to better understand the Big Picture.  They are open-minded to new people and new experiences; they’re eager for the opportunity to understand what the new people and experiences are all about.  ENFPs use their understanding of the world to serve the agendas of their value systems.  An ENFP’s value system often includes respect for the needs and desires of individual people over the needs of a social group.  Their respect for the individual makes them dislike controlling others, and being controlled by others.  ENFPs are passionate about their beliefs, whatever they may be.

They often stubbornly adhere to their value system regardless of threats to its validity.  They are more concerned with keeping true to what they believe than they are with expectations or demands from the social group that they function within.  ENFPs dislike personal criticism, because it threatens their validity as an individual and the validity of their value system.  ENFPs may internalize anger rather than express it; their respect for other individuals makes it difficult for them to hurt others.  An ENFP’s feeling of success depends upon the availability of opportunities to grow their understanding of the world, upon feeling that they’re living true to their personal value system, and upon the condition of their closest relationships.

Potential Problem Areas

With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without "bad", there would be no "good". Without "difficult", there would be no "easy". We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type's potential problem areas.

Most of the weaker characteristics found in ENFPs are due to their dominant Extraverted Intuition overshadowing  the personality to the extent that they don’t apply judgement to anything.  Or, they may use their primary judging function (Introverted Feeling) to support the agenda of Extraverted Intuition, i.e. to rationalize and support the idea of welcoming all experiences and accepting all individuals.  In such cases, an ENFP may show some or all of the following weaknesses in varying degree:

  • May be what many would call a “sucker”; vulnerable to schemers and con artists.
  • May get themselves into dangerous situations because they’re too eager to push the envelope of their understanding, and not willing to apply judgement to anything.
  • May feel intense anger towards people who criticize them or try to control them. But will be unable to express the anger.  Left unexpressed, the anger may fester and simmer and become destructive.
  • May blame their problems on other people, using logic and ration to defend themselves against the world.
  • May develop strong negative judgements that are difficult to unseed against people who they perceive have been oppressive to them.
  • May get involved with drugs, alcohol, or promiscuity, and generally seek mindless experiences and sensations.
  • May skip from relationship to relationship without the ability to commit.
  • May start projects but be unable to finish them.
  • May be unable to stick to a career or job for any length of time.
Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve ENFP Success

  1. Feed Your Strengths! Make sure you have opportunities to have new experiences to feel your quest of understanding the world.
  2. Face Your Weaknesses! Realize and accept that some traits are strengths and some are weaknesses. By facing your weaknesses, you can overcome them and they will have less power over you.
  3. Express Your Feelings. Don’t let anger get bottled up inside you.  If you have strong feelings, sort them out and express them, or they may become destructive!
  4. Make Decisions. Don't be afraid to have an opinion. You need to know how you feel about things in order to be effective.
  5. Smile at Criticism. Try to see disagreement and discord as an opportunity for growth, because that’s exactly what it is.  Try not to become overly defensive towards criticism; try to hear it and judge it objectively.
  6. Be Aware of Others. Remember that there are 15 other personality types out there who see things differently than you see them. Most of your problems with other people are easier to deal with if you try to understand the other person's perspective.
  7. Be Aware of Yourself. Don't stint your own needs for the sake of others too much. Realise you are an important focus. If you do not fulfill your own needs, how will continue to be effective and how will others know you are true to your beliefs?
  8. Be Accountable for Yourself. Don’t waste mental energy finding blame in other’s behaviour, or in identifying yourself as a victim.  You have more control over your life than any other person has.
  9. Assume the Best. Don't distress yourself by assuming the worst.  Remember that a positive attitude creates positive situations.
  10. When in Doubt, Ask Questions! Don't assume that the lack of feedback is the same thing as negative feedback. If you need feedback and don't have any, ask for it. 

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